New Home for '76 Model Mike

There are some very few subtleties that I do not like about blogspot that do not appear to be an issue on wordpress. Therefore, I've moved my posts and home to there. I'll leave this one up for the time being.

http://76modelmike.wordpress.com

Let's Get This Party Started

I suppose I should write a little something here and there in order to create a little "muscle memory" for the brain. I've been saying for a while now that I want to write a memoir at the ripe old age of 35... I think I'll approach it in parts. Bits of memories sprinkled into my days until that time where I can put them all together as a collective work. I may even have a few entries in a day followed by several days with nothing. So here goes.

Trials and tribulations. I used to hear those words often when my father would pray out loud. Always asking God to see us through something or thanking Him for having already brought us through a trial or tribulation. I didn't' know what it meant. Hell, i wasn't even paying attention to his praying most of the time. But I heard the words and they've stuck with me all these years. Funny thing is... I know what they mean now even though I've never actually needed to look them up in a dictionary. I guess languages have a way of doing that to people. We sort of just "get" things without being expressly told what it is that those things mean. An inherent human ability, if you will.

I don't know how far I will get with this. I may or may not finish it. My mind wanders off in different directions so quickly. As soon as one thought comes, it reminds me of something else. It's a continuing process until I can't remember what it was I was thinking about in the first place. I suspect that I will one day go crazy, and I mean that in the most clinical way possible. Perhaps that's why I want to put some of this down now. So it isn't lost. I chuckle inside at myself for even proposing that anyone else will even give a s** about the things that I've done. I'm not a celebrity. Not a professional musician. Nobody special. Just a regular guy with a regular family with regular problems. This is reality. Not the crap on TV. There's nothing real about that.

I'll say some things in this project that may or may not piss some people off. They may feel let down that I've included some details that they probably wish I didn't share. I've thought about that at some length and the way I see it, experiences I've shared with someone are just as much mine to disclose as it is theirs. Sure, I'll leave some shit out. Never said this was a "full disclosure" project, regardless of my position on transparency.


If you're out there reading this, whoever you are, thanks.

Writing for a Living

I received some feedback from some people I know in response to the blog I posted the other day. The suggestion was that I should or could write for a living. My wife agrees and has mentioned it on occasion. So, I'm wondering about that. How difficult would that be for me to make the transition into writing for a living? I have a few concerns and I guess I will mention them here. I'm not sure if they go unanswered or even if I'm necessarily looking for direct feedback. Just posing the questions. Perhaps that helps me to reach a conclusion on the topics at hand...or at minimum give me a better grasp on more clearly defining what it is I'm in search of.

I know I have a knack for writing. I think I've always known that. That's not meant to sound as though I'm bragging, but I won't feign ignorance in an effort to appear more humble than I am. The problem I come across is: "can I write on demand and as a lifestyle?" I suppose I could. I just don't know how that habit gets incorporated into my daily routine. Just as sort of a precursor to this article, I performed a Google search on "becoming an author." I briefly scanned through some of the results and it seemed as though there were a few common concerns among aspiring authors, most of which I share.

You have to write to be a writer

Ha! Brilliant. Unfortunately, it's very true. "Unfortunate," you ask? Yes. Because most people out there who have the capacity to write in any sort of convincing manner are probably not actively writing. I include myself in this assumption of "many." I suppose writing in this case would be no different than any other activity, whether professional or leisurely. It is suggested on some of the sites I visited that one writes everyday in order to maintain their craft. I agree with that. I need to write.

Reading

Sure, we CAN read...but do we? I tend to go through spurts in almost everything I do in life. Every hobby or pass-time I've ever pursued has either been hot or cold. I'll mow through some books if I have the current desire to do so. This is not for the simple sake of getting as much reading done as possible. Instead, it is because it is very easy for me to get sucked into a story. So much so that I want more and more of it. Then, I'll usually find a lull in a book and it bores me to the point of not reading. One site even suggested that if you aspire to create a literary work, you should read books that fit within the genre in which you wish to create.

I'm a bit torn on this one. While I certainly agree that one should read in order to keep your mind in shape (specifically, a larger vocabulary can typically be acquired when reading often), the rebel in me says "fuck your genre." On the other hand, I suppose that not every reader is a writer, so if I want to attract readers at all, my writing needs to bear some familiarity in structure--something people can recognize, even if only subconsciously.

Becoming frustrated and giving up

That fits me to a tee. I hate to admit that but with honest self-reflection, I cannot deny that apparent "weakness" that I have. So many people out there are writing. So many probably feel as though their words are worth the attention of potential readers. How many people really get that opportunity though? Many? Few? I don't know. Some articles suggested that I submit works to competitions. Meh... sounds like so much work (sounds lazy, I know). What this also implies is that the recommended competitions are centered more around creative works (e.g., works of fiction) and that is an area that I've no experience in. I'd love to give that a try, I guess. I just wouldn't know where to start. My "experience" comes more from argumentative works or even just plain 'ole point of view. I suppose, depending on one's position on the matters in which I share my opinion, my writing could be seen as fiction.

So, what drives people to want to become authors? The very same sites I visited had a few ideas on this and I think they're worth some attention.

Fame

Well, that's not me really. I don't typically like the general public much anyway. The last thing I want is a bunch of people looking at me, criticizing me, going out of their way to talk to me, etc. Of course, there WOULD be a sense of accomplishment if that were the case though, wouldn't it? And I wouldn't certainly need the reader base if I wanted to actually be compensated for my craft.

Money

That's never ever been a motivating factor for me. It has certainly been a DE-motivator lately but the thought of compensation hasn't ever grabbed me and propelled me to perform well. I've gone over this with recent management in my current job numerous times and they still don't get it. When I don't perform, it always comes full circle. They relentlessly come back with something along the lines of "well, if you perform well, you could be making X dollars." I get more irritated at the fact that haven't listened to a word I've said in the past regarding my drive and what fuels it. But...I need to be compensated in order to survive. I like living a lifestyle that allows me some financial freedom. Ha! Who doesn't? I've been very well compensated in the past for doing outstanding work in a sales environment, but it was never about the money. It was about being the best at what I did.

Writing for the sake of writing

That's more in line with what I would write for, although it does sound a bit eye-rolling cliche. It still doesn't fit perfectly with my goals but it's fairly close. I would like to write just for the sake of the literature that has yet to be created, but for the most part (and up til now) I really think I have messages to communicate. I want to put them in writing but more importantly (to me) I want people to see my points of view. No, that's not contradictory to my view on fame or people. It's just me wanting a purpose to the things I write.

My roadblocks seem more simple since I've written them down. At least they're more defined, which is exactly one of the goals I had when I set out to write this article. I need to get off my ass and write. I need to proactively look for ways to improve my writing. I need to get my writing seen and be able to take feedback and adjust to it. Overall, I think I can do it. I just have to start.

The Rest of the Background Check

I sit here a bit disappointed in what our system has come to. There's very little left to subjectivity anymore, especially from a corporate view point. There's simply too much fear of political or legal backlash if things aren't "fair" to some people. So, rules become strictly black and white with very little left to discretion. I've now been in retail for a bit over 9 years and just recently received an offer for a position at Bank of America. I was so excited to be finally getting out of retail. I think that line of work has hardened me to the point where the humane side of my being is dissipating. That is not something that I am proud of, but it's what it's become. But, things have a way of getting int he way of my progress. Every single time. "Heartbroken" at now knowing that I will remain in retail for an indefinite time is probably the best way to describe it. Like I'm stuck.


I received a phone call followed by a letter from Bank of America indicating that I was not eligible for hire because my background check had returned unsatisfactory. After the phone call, I was utterly taken aback because I knew in my heart that I had nothing on my criminal record. I could do nothing but wait until the letter arrived. At that point, I would receive instructions on how to dispute the results.
 
Patiently, I waited for this letter to arrive and as promised, it came in the mail yesterday. In underlined text, I was informed that simply being dissatisfied with the results did not justify initiating an appeal. Included with the packet was a copy of the requested Rap Sheet from the FBI. One lone charge appeared on there and one that I had long since forgotten about. It was dated October 29, 1994. Seventeen years ago.
 
The incident immediately came rushing back to me as if it had just happened. I can see everything...the angle of the Sun on the buildings, the approximate hour, what I was doing prior and just after. It was an exceptionally awkward time in my life (there have been many). Just a couple months prior, I had turned 18 and adulthood thus far had not been very kind to me. One week before my birthday, my father stood on the stairs as I was opening the door to go to work and said "you have a week to find a place to live." Being the stubborn 17 year old that I was, I replied with "don't bother waiting the week out." I called into work, packed everything I could into 2 large cardboard boxes and loaded them into the backseat of my 1982 Toyota Tercel.
 
I bounced around for a few days at different people's houses. Just sleeping there. I spent the majority of my days working or finding other things to do because I didn't want to be in anyone's way in their homes. It was around the time when my peers were preparing for high school graduation. I would not be joining them since I made the mistake of telling an inappropriate joke in front of a teacher. Because of that, I had been suspended the 3 days of our final exams, thereby disqualifying me from graduating on May 27th. Once they graduated, I really had no place to stay. Nobody wanted some kid in their house while their own kid was away for Senior trip.
 
I was a bit too proud to tell many people what was going on in my life at that point. Therefore, I had not asked anyone else to stay with them. Instead, I found a gravel parking lot at a wildlife refuge and slept there at night, on the gravel (the boxes in my back seat would not allow my front seats to recline). My dad had not yet taken me off the family's gym membership so I could drive there to take showers before work. But I was still just lonely.
 
After a couple weeks of that, my closest friend Steve asked his parents to let me stay there until I left for boot camp. They agreed under the condition that I pay them $20 per week for rent. I though that was fair and I was so thankful for that. I started Summer School to make up for the semester that I failed and was still holding a part time evening job so I could pay my rent. I was scheduled to go to Marine Corps boot camp at the beginning of August (after both sessions of Summer School had passed) so I at least had a finite time period. However, things changed yet again.
 
My friend Steve wasn't scheduled for boot camp until mid-November of 1994. He got a call one day in late June/early July from our recruiter asking him if he could go...tomorrow. Well, being an eager young lad, he said that he could leave the next day and so he did. This left me once again in an awkward spot...living with someone else's parents. I felt out of place and panicked.
 
Steve had a neighbor. Single woman in her late 40's who had a den that wasn't being used for much. She asked for me to stay with her and offered me her den in exchange for performing all the yard work and other miscellaneous chores. This felt much better for some reason. It was a favor but it didn't feel like one to me. But, as history is the best indicator of the future, I was asked to leave. I'm fairly certain this had something to do with the fact that I had been fooling around with one of her friends but she never really told me so that's merely a guess.
 
By this time, I had been kicked out of Summer School for smoking (a bad habit I picked up in all of this mess), had enrolled in The Center School (an adult high school in Knoxville, TN), and had found a job through a temp agency at Anderson News Company, a baseball card distributor. I was in charge of creating UPS shipments to Canadian Wal-Marts. I was so efficient at that position that managers from UPS came by one day to watch me work to figure out how I was getting things done so quickly and accurately. I didn't make that much money from that. I was broke most of the time. The downside of working so fast was that I ran out of work to do, thereby reducing my hours.
 
The oil light in my car had been on for about 6 days. I was driving on my way to get my check and I was prioritizing the oil issue. About halfway there, the engine blew. There I was, stuck on I-640 (The I-40 bypass in Knoxville), under an overpass with no money. I knew right then that I wouldn't be able to afford the repair costs for the car. This also meant that I would no longer have that job.
 
My uncle offered to let me move in with him. I don't think he really knew what had all gone down over the last couple months. But he was there for me then and always has been. I even found out years later that he had been in the process of moving to Sumter SC but held back so he could provide me a home until boot camp. From his house, I would ride my bicycle to school so I could finish my High School Diploma. The Marines weren't accepting GED's at the time so I was driven to finish actual high school. This is what all set my little indiscretion in motion.
 
I was riding my bike to school one morning, still very broke and with no job, but I still had the smoking habit. I stopped at a Kroger on Broadway on my way and went inside with the intent to steal a pack of Marlboro 25's. never made it out of the store, which in hindsight I should have denied my intent because I was technically still within the store. But aside from this incident, I'm too honest and open to have denied it anyway. The fine for this was $162.50 and my recruiter paid it for me because I was so close to leaving for boot camp and I was his first recruit.
 
So there it is. Larceny. Sure it was wrong but I was a kid really. A kid going through some rough times and no real avenue in which to deal with things on a mature level. But my background? Heh. No Bank of America. This is not my background. This was an isolated incident in my very distant past.
 
Since that time, I made it through boot camp even though my father verbally expressed that he didn't think I would even make it through. I've seen the world through the window of a helicopter and sometimes down the barrel of a .50 caliber machine gun. I watched a 19 year old fellow Marine take a broken crane hook to the shoulder so hard it knocked the femur out of his leg. Yeah... try to picture that. Then stayed behind with him to help feed and bathe him since he was now a paraplegic. I've helped build homes for victims of natural disasters. I've contributed to helping homeless veterans seek shelter, medical, dental, and legal services annually. I was recognized by the city of Glendale, AZ as the volunteer of the quarter in Q2 of 2006 when I was volunteering as an EMT and crisis counselor to the Glendale Fire Department. I worked my way up to a sales management position with a respected company and brought a team of professionals from net losses to being one of the best in the organization. Hell, I was even recognized several times through various recognition programs for my efforts as a manager. I've since earned my B.S. from Arizona State University, graduating Summa Cum Laude, through their honors program, making the Dean's List every semester, while maintaining my professional excellence and running a family. Most importantly, I've married the woman of my dreams and have been raising 4 beautiful children with her. We teach them right from wrong and maintain a conservative approach to our lifestyle. Yes, even stealing is forbidden in our house.
 
I've never shared this story in so much detail. Come to think of it, I've never shared it at all. This is not because I am or ever was ashamed of it. It's because it's because that single act is so insignificant to how my life has shaped up so far that I never felt the need to bring it up. I'd even mostly forgotten about it until now. Everyone has their problems and most have endured things similar, worse, or better than the things I've described here. The point of all of this is not to make a sob story nor is it a plea for reconsideration. What point does it serve then? Well, I've always believed in a little transparency.
 
Larceny.
 
While you may have that word on a slip of paper from somewhere, you have no idea my background at all. Bank of America. Are you really "of America"?
 
Semper Fidelis,
Mikel J. Branch, Sgt. of Marines
Father
Husband
Veteran
Scholar
Professional

The Cold Heart of a Retail Worker


Yeah, I haven't written in almost 2 years (yikes) but I'm coming back to the blog. It's actually a shame that I'm coming back in a rant but hey...it is what it is.

My wife and I were lying in bed the other afternoon. Not going to sleep. Just hanging out BS'ing. We started talking about how I've always been sort of an impatient person, but it's when she said that it's gotten worse over the years that I really started to evaluate that and where she would have gotten that idea. You know what? She's right.

It is very difficult to accurately describe the feeling I get when things start to annoy me. I'm certain that others get their own feelings and they may even be similar. The closest I can come is saying that the hairs on the back of my neck start to "stand up." There is a bit of a panicked feeling and then I immediately want whatever the disturbance is to just stop. I don't care how or what is going on, I just want it ceased. It's almost like a pain threshold has been met and no "hysteresis region" to deal with it (like a buffer). Come to think of it, I recently saw an article in one of the more popular news magazines (can't remember which one) that cited a study illustrating that the brain makes no distinction between physical and mental/emotional pain. Interesting subject for sure.

In my self-evaluation regarding my impatience, I began to compare myself to other people I know. I tried to mentally separate those which had similar tendencies (outside of my private-life impatience). One of the criteria for my grouping was trying to determine who shared an overall distaste for the general public. To clarify, I'm what many would consider cold-hearted. Although this is only the case when it is regarding people I have no connection with. Brutal truth? Japanese earthquakes, Haitian catastrophes, and New Orleans Hurricanes don't really bother me that much. It is only when things directly affect me or people who I care about that I feel remorse. What many would find even more odd is that I don't even seem to feel bad about not feeling bad. Is that normal? I'm going out on a limb here and I'm going to assume that yes, it is normal for many people. I also believe that there are many who won't admit that they feel this way (or "don't feel" rather).

So, who do I know that I think are most like me when it comes to disliking people in general? Retail workers. It's a snowball effect that I can't place a starting point on from personal experience, but working with the populace on a daily basis desensitizes us to people's concerns, I believe. At minimum, I think that is the case when working with people in that capacity. There are most certainly jobs which provide various services for people that I think the workers in those fields can find great satisfaction. Retail employees, however, don't get that same sense of fulfillment in most cases.

Those who know me also know that for various reasons, I waited to obtain my undergraduate degree until later on (i.e., 34 when I graduated). In my perspective, that allowed me to take subject matters and immediately process them into more application based scenarios rather than someone with much less life-experience than I. Of course, I would also submit that those who experienced higher education at ages even older than mine had an even greater applied education. In 2006, I was in a lower division basic macroeconomics class. In one very short portion of a lesson, we covered something that I think back to very often in my work. There was a small box on one of the pages in our text that illustrated how American GDP has moved at a steady pace from being industrial based to a service related economy. As of the printed date of that text, an estimated 76% of American jobs were now in the generically labeled "service industry." So, what does that mean and how does it relate to retail employees' attitude toward people?

Although I would love to do the research to back it (too lazy to be honest), I think it's probably safe to assume that our collective environments and atmospheres deeply (and perhaps even subconsciously) affect how we process information. In the industrial times, aside from engineers, people were subject to a more "mechanical" existence. Things worked this way, that way, or not at all. There was most likely very little room for subjectivity. This could also be what lead to our overwhelming conservative way of life, but I'll save that discussion for another time. In these times, I believe it was easy for a business owner/manager to go out of their way to help a customer because it wasn't a big deal. It served the greater good of both the business (brought the customer back) and the customer (they were unexpectedly and individually satisfied). As more businesses notice these trends, it is easy for an entrepreneur to emulate the behavior. Hey, still a great thing for the honest customer. With more businesses being put into place in order to provide a service, the natural human tendency to expect things that have a precedence set starts to grow. This is a cycle that keeps going; more services to satisfy customers, less industry to create products for consumer demand.

This is where greed and entitlement start to rear their ugly heads. Yep. I brought those up...because that's what it really boils down to. There have been countless times where a customer has made an unreasonable request, the request has not been granted, and they have said to me "whatever happened to 'the customer is always right?'" My immediate reaction mentally was to roll my eyes. It screams "I WANT I WANT I WANT." In today's economy, businesses are now having to take a step back and tell customers "no" more often than they used to because at the end of the day, it's just not profitable. Just 4 years ago, a well known cell phone provider began cancelling their subscribers' accounts when they felt that the customers were taking advantage of the goodwill of the company. Many people frowned on that and I think the people who did view that negatively probably had that same sense of entitlement themselves and could therefore relate. To me, it was a bold move and something that I applaud. Why? Because we're not 5 years old anymore. We don't win all the time and there isn't even going to always be a participation ribbon.

Basically, when things don't go people's way, it's a crisis. Who deals with that on a consumer level? That's right; those same retail employees from earlier. The sob stories, the obvious lies, the demanding nature, and the absolute laziness I see from people who expect things from the companies I have worked for has been enough to cause me to just not care about them anymore. There is nothing fulfilling about solving their problems because they're typically avoidable on the customer end and the customers are rarely truly grateful anyway. And the people I know who work in retail generally all feel the same way. You know what's funny about retail employees? Find one that you know and ask them about "customers" in general. See how they respond both verbally and non-verbally.  Even if they smile while making fun of some scenarios, see if you can see the common theme. We eventually just stop caring.

Yeah, this was a rather long one. I could actually keep going but I feel that the point has been made on this one. I doubt anyone reads my blog anyway. But here it is.

Richard the Lion Heart and the French Whore (Final Day of Vacation)

Sunday, May 31st, 2009

Man, we didn't sleep worth a shit that night. Of course, there was only a couple hours of it, anyway. Up and at 'em. Quick shower but still the same clothes because, as I've said, the rest of them were all packed up and somewhere in the airport.

Because we did not view the sights of London last night, we were going to do that this morning but the price we would pay for doing this meant that we ahd to carry our carry-on luggage everywhere we went. We sort of looked like street people, I'd imagine, except we were freshly bathed. I still had the map that the concierge gave me the night before in his ever-so-polite manner. We checked out of the hotel but we were hungry.

Up until this point, we had not had a bite of fast food anywhere along our journey. Right across the street from the hotel, however, there was a McDonald's so we decided today was the day we'd have some. We had sausage biscuits and coffee. The interesting thing about the coffee was when we ordered 2 coffees, the young lady behind the counter politely asked: "white or black?" Huh? Seeing the puzzled look on my face, she translated that for me. "With milk or without?" Ah! With milk, please. For a week now, we'd had coffee with milk, not cream. I much rather prefer cream in my coffee but I accepted milk as a suitable alternative given the environment we were in only drank it that way--no cream.

After breakfast, we caught the bus from the hotel back to the terminal at the airport that would lead us to the Picadilly Line on the tube, again. The ride was not as long as I remember from the night before but it was far more scenic. In the sun-drenched morning, you could watch the activities of London suburbia. The houses, the small shops in little parts of the outlying towns. Various brief stops at the stations provided us with a little longer view.

Finally, we arrive at the Hyde Park Corner stop and made our way to the top. The escalator to get to the surface was absolutely the longest, tallest, and steepest escalator I had ever seen. Once to the top, there was a slight labyrinth of tunnels to navigate to get to the park but we made our way through and into the city. The entrance to the park was a beautiful but small piece of architecture. Of course we took pictures but did not enter. We only had a couple short hours to see some of the things we wanted to see. Tarrying in the park would not do our agenda justice.

Hyde Park is not all that far by foot to Buckingham Palace. It was just a short stroll down a road called Constitution Hill. What a beautiful road! Each side was adorned with large trees, providing shade for pedestrians, cyclists, and motorists alike. It was nice taking a walk with my wife in London in a setting such as this, even though we looked like vagabonds with our luggage strapped to us. After a few short minutes, we finally found ourselves just beside Buckingham Palace.

What an impressive sight! The palace itself was not all that awe-inspiring but the whole scene was just awesome! The Palace, the modern Police officers with automatic weapons but wearing traditional bobby hats, and of course the traditional Palace Guards. They were not outside of the gate but instead they were up against the Palace walls. Yes, they marched back and forth, for what I do not know. Probably mostly for show, now, as I think the automatic weapons out front served as much more of a deterrent than these fellows. We took a few pictures of the palace, the modern cops, and the traditional guards then walked over to the Victoria Memorial for a greater view.

The Victoria Memorial was a wonderful piece of art. Looking out over the Mall was the likeness of Queen Victoria--regal and graceful, at the same time. We took a few pictures there and had our picture taken by a French man there. Looking away from the Palace while standing at the memorial, the Mall was an impressive sight, as well. On each side of the street for as far as the Mall stretched, dozens of British Flags hung as a bold reminder of exactly where you were standing.

Knowing that we didn't have that much time, we headed out by foot toward the clump of history that all sat near the banks of the River Thames. We took the path of a street called Birdcage Walk. Another impressive compilation of pavement and horticulture, if I must say. On that little road, we passed the barracks for the Palace guards. There were tour times available but had to press onward.

After a few mintues of walking down Birdcage Walk, we came upon the square where one could see Big Ben, the Houses of Parliament, and Westminster Abbey almost all in once view. It was magnificent. We headed to Westminster Abbey first. What an impressive sight, that was! Built in the Gothic model of architecture, the details and the angles...the towering spires and the artwork that was so intricately incorporated into the architecture was something that modern day engineers would simply not have the patience for. I could not get enough of staring at this beautiful piece of history. But after several pictures of the church and about 20 minutes of taking it in, it was time to move on, yet again.

All of these traditional sights are literally clumped all together so just beyond the Abbey, the Houses of Parliament sat waiting to be viewed. This structure was absolutely enormous. Not so much tall as it was just the massive amount of real estate that this thing took up. We walked the entire length of the Houses (aka Westminster Palace), taking pictures and just looking at the buildings. Two things really caught my attention. There was this very small structure across the street from the Houses that was built in the shape of a castle. I didn't know what it was while we were there but I thought it was interesting. Later, when we came back to the States, I was doing a little informal research of the Royal lineage and saw that one of the Kings had built that to house the Royal Treasure. I cannot remember now which King it was but it was neat learning about that.

The other thing that really grabbed my attention was the statue depicting King Richard I (Richard the Lionheart). It was a representation of the King who reigned between 1189 and 1199. He was mounted atop a horse and holding a sword above his head. No savage look on his face...no galloping steed...no robes flowing behind him. Just the King with a face that demanded respect. Odd thing about this English King was that the man hardly spoke a word of English and was rarely even in his country. Instead, he was commanding armies in battles throughout the vast majority of his life. But it really wasn't the statue, the warrior spirit, nor the placement next to the Houses of Parliament that got me. It was the simple history of it. King Richard I, the English People and their pride. Regardless of how proud I am to be an American, most of us have our roots right here in England. Some man, some woman, some child who were subjects of this mighty king had children, who would have children, who would have children, who would become my parents. This is just as much a part of my history as any given British subject, regardless of my nationality.

As much as I hated it, it was time to move on. Through the whole venture in this historic part of London, I would occasional snap pictures of Big Ben from the different angles I could see it from. Yes...just a clock but it's iconic. I think many of us think of Big Ben when someone mentions London. But this time, I was there. Just on the other end of the enormous grounds that held the Houses of Parliament, this giant clock they call Big Ben stood high and proud...the base of it all literally being slapped by the small waves of the River Thames. I wondered for a moment how long it would be before erosion wore completely through the base of ole Ben and caused to tumble into the water.

Many pictures taken of all of it. The River Thames, Westminster Abbey, The Houses of Parliament, the various statues of heroes (including the great Winston Churchill), the double decker buses... just amazing. But only 3 hours worth of it.

My wife and I got a cup of espresso from a little shop run by an Italian man. We stood outside, drank our coffee and just watched for a bit. But very soon, it was time to catch the tube back to Heathrow.

In the station waiting for the train, we met a man from India who was just beginning his journey all over Europe until he made his way back to his home country. He spoke very good English and was excellent conversation both in the station and on the train, itself. We talked about our children, our cultures, our political views... It was interesting.

Back in the airport, we had a couple hours to kill. I wanted to make sure we had plenty of time just in case there were any security issues or other unforeseen events. Inside the airport and near our gate, there was this little restaurant that we decided to eat in. They served Bass on Nitrogen which was delicious. In fact, I had a beer there on our way to Germany a week earlier. Anyway, since I really wanted to have English Fish and Chips, I was very pleased to find these on the menu. It was heavenly! The greatest part was that I discovered "mushy peas." WOW! They were fantastic and taste4d nothing like the canned or even fresh peas we have here. They were large, bright green and just as the name implies: mushy.

We ate, paid our tab, and headed to the gate. After about half hour, we were able to board the 747 that would take us directly back to Phoenix. The plane was not packed but was not particularly empty, either. My wife and I had 2 seats in a row of 3 and after several minutes, no one had claimed the other seat in our row. We started to get a little excited, thinking that perhaps we would have this space to ourselves for the whole 10.5 hour flight.

One particular woman was making her way toward us and we thought "damn!" but no. She passed us and we both breathed a sigh of relief. But then she came back. Passed us again. Over and over she passed us heading in both directions. Finally, she was shown to her seat by an attendant. Yep. She sat with us. She was a very petite woman who was probably in her mid-40's. She absolutely smelled like a French whore. My goodness! Her perfume was so overwhelming that I just wanted to gag. Her make-up was caked on her skin which looked like leather. Literally. Once we took off, she ordered wine after wine after wine. In French! no kidding. Maybe she was a French Whore. Anyway... for 10 hours and after several wines, she never got up once. WTF?

After those 10.5 hours, we were home. It was a long flight. We were tired, I was grumpy... you know how it goes. It was May 31st in Phoenix so it was hot. We got a ride back to my car and made the trip back to our house. It was over.

What a great time. I had been to Europe as a young man in the Marines but not like this. When I was younger, I had to go out with a "liberty buddy," I had to be back on ship at a certain time, etc. This time, I was with my wife...my life-partner. We were totally immersed in the culture. We had to learn together and live together for 24 hours a day that week. We saw human atrocities. We laughed at things we saw. We drove on the autobahn. We visited a castle. It was simply amazing.

If you've read all of these, thank you for taking time out of your lives to read about mine.

Dad's Childhood and the Picadilly Line (Day 7 of Germany--final day)

Saturday, May 30th, 2009.

We had decided that we would try to sleep in a little on our last morning. We did manage to get an extra hour of sleep. That puts us at 7am instead of 6. :) But we really took our time getting ready. Took turns taking showers and getting ready. Watched a little bit of the German version of the Disney Channel. It was an American show with German dubbed over. Looked about as natural as Kung Fu theater, as far as words matching lip movement. I have no idea what they were saying but it kept me interested, anyway.


While my wife was in the shower, I decided to use the hotel's complimentary computer that was in the lobby to check some emails. I logged in alright but the keyboard was so different. It took me a very long time to find the apostrophe and when I did finally find it, I couldn't figure out how to actually make it appear on the screen. Well, we have the "shift" key that gives us the alternate symbol on a given key. They have that too but they also have keys that have three options. You have to hold the "Alt" key to get those symbols. they also had the vowels with the umlauts on them. Overall, it was odd trying to use it. I gave up on it and went back upstairs to pack. I packed all of my clothes except for my current selection, as we would be home tomorrow. I had on a t-shirt, some thin plaid shorts, and flip-flops. Everything else would be checked. Not important now but it would play out later.

Guess what else? No deli meat and cheese this morning. Instead, we decided to see if we could find a bakery. I remembered that there was one enxt to the pizza place we had visited on the first night here, several days ago. I lied the look of the bakeries, here. Of course they were more like little shops that just happened to bake in the back but they were quaint. Don't know why we never tried one prior to that day. We went in, got a couple of pastries, couple cups of coffee and ate inside the bakery. A lot of these places (Imbiss included) had these tall tables that were at just the perfect height to stand and eat or drink at. Never a chair. It was almost as if they invited you to stay and consume there but don't wear out your welcome. An invitation to eat and run, I guess.


Since this was a little shop, we bought the kids each a magazine in German to take back to them. After we came back home, we realized that one of them had some very sexual stuff in advertisements. This was a magazine that featured Hannah Montana on the cover. We assumed it would be safe. You know what happens when you assume, right?

We had decided that we would spend the day in Wiesbaden, which is a little town about 20km outside of Frankfurt. I really wanted to go there because my Grandfather was stationed there back in the late 50's/early 60's. My Dad had actually lived there att he time, with my Grandparents. To me, it was awesome to know that I was nearly 6,000 miles from home but in the same place that my father was when he was a child. And in another country, no less.

We made our way to Wiesbaden and found a parking garage near a very busy shopping district in the town. The parking garage was actually affixed to a "mall" of sorts. We'll call it a mall anyway, because I can't think of how else to describe it. Each floor of the place was dedicated like a department store but it was huge! They even had a Starbucks on site. Of course we partook of the caffeine goodness. :)

After perusing the mall for a bit, we decided to walk around the shopping district of Wiesbaden. The streets and alleys were closed to motorized traffic but was jam-packed with pedestrian shoppers and gazers. We even found a little farmer's market where people were buying all sorts of fresh produce and meats. The biggest selling item there? White asparagus. I'm personally not a big fan of asparagus but my wife loves it and was really impressed with the odd cousin of the more popular green asparagus. Apparently, these little guys needed to be shucked or peeled or whatever they do to them. There was a machine that did this for the masses at the end of the market.

We didn't buy anything. We just sort of walked around and looked in many of the shops. Of course, I stopped for a beer. We sat there for a bit before deciding it was time to head back to Frankfurt.

Once we got back to the airport, we parked the car and headed in to hang out at the gate before our departure back to London. I had a couple beers and sent a couple texts back to my colleagues in the U.S. All of our bags were checked and the only clothes we had were what we were wearing. I had on shorts, a t-shirt, and some flip flops. The weather was nice in Germany. Later, I would pay for it.

On the flight there were a lot of American high-school aged girls who were on a softball team for some American School in England. We spoke for a while with the chaperones--an American couple and a young woman who was from London but barely had an accent. She claimed that was because of her consistent exposure to Americans. The flight was uneventful and we arrived in London as the sun was starting to set. The American man that we had spoken with earlier said that if we wanted to hang out in historic London, we could take the Picadilly Line on the Tube straight from the airport to the Hyde Park stop. That sounded like an excellent idea but we wanted to drop our bags at the hotel first.

Our hotel was located just on the other side of London Heathrow but the cab ride with tip cost us 20 pounds!! That's like $30! Pretty rich, if you ask me. We checked into the hotel and took our bags to our room. Once back in to lobby, I asked the concierge about more economical means of transportation back to the airport where we could catch the tube to downtown. He told us about the buses and which one we should take to get us to the right terminal for the Picadilly Line. He gave us a map and he was most pleasant to speak with. When I said "Thank you" his response was "pleasure." That was neat.

We waited for the bus for what seemed like an eternity. I was getting very thirsty after several minutes of waiting. I went into the hotel bar to get a bottle of water. Guess what. The bus came and went while i was inside. Nice. So, we waited another 15 minutes for another bus.

Bus ride was uneventful. We found the Picadilly Line, no problems, and headed downtown. The funny thing about the "Tube" which is really caleld The Underground was that above each door, there were these signs that said "Mind The Gap." It was really neat to note the differences in the English we speak in America, and the English spoken there. "Mind The Gap" was literally used as we would use "Watch Your Step" in our culture. Exit signs said "Way Out" instead of "Exit." Our "Clearance" signs (i.e. drive-thru windows and parking garages) said "Max Headroom." In fact, the "Mind The Gap" saying has apparently gotten a lot of attention because you can even find shirts, panties, and other items with this little saying on them.

We finally got to the Hyde Park stop and it was damn near midnight. We were very tired. We got outside of the station and my goodness! It was so cold!!! Those shorts, flip-flops and t-shirt were now not a good idea. The train was going to stop running in a little over an hour so we needed to head back. What a waste of time!!!

My wife fell asleep on my shoulder on the way back to the airport. I was people watching. Many people dressed to go out partying, as it was Saturday. Girls there were dressed just as trampy as the girls here, apparently unbothered by the cold night air. Young men were riding together and chit-chatting about nothing at all, the same way we do here. Just as it was in Berlin, these were just people, going about their business the same as people all over the world. Just with different accents and different ways of doing things.

We finally got back to the airport around 1:30am. The buses had mostly shut down and we couldn't find a cab to save our lives. I was so ready for bed and just wanted a ride back to the hotel from anywhere. We did finally grab a cab and thankfully, we were cloer to the other side of the airport and the cab ride was only about 10 pounds.

Made our way to our room and we both crashed pretty hard. The next 3 hours of sleep were going to be short, indeed. But we wanted to make sure we got to see the sights we intended to see.